Hair, Health, Exercise…oh and Happy Valentine’s

Happy Valentine’s Day Readers.


I know that some people would argue today is a just a made up celebration to get us to spend more money however I see it as a day where we are reminded to think about one another. I recently read about a lady that was found dead in her flat after around 3 years, she was surrounded by Christmas gifts and the TV had been on for the entire time. I felt this was particularly sad that no one had missed her all that time.  So even if you don’t have a special someone to get all romantic with, take this day to reach out to a friend you haven’t heard from in a while. This world is a lonely place sometimes.

Valentine’s day is not just about loving each other either, it’s about loving and taking care of ourselves and with that I am sure you might be interested to hear how my survey on hair, health and exercise is going.

Some Early Survey Results….

Most responses are from the UK, but  there have been a large number from the US as well

There have also been respondents from Jamaica, Sierra Leone and Tanzania to name a few places.

Most of you are natural and have been that way for at least 3 years (natural is growing!)

Guess what? some of you really don’t exercise at all because it would ruin their hairstyles

However I am not even halfway there yet, I need lots more of you to fill out the survey. So this is really a call to anyone that hasn’t filled it in yet. To those of you who have been thinking about it but haven’t got around to it. To those of you who haven’t forward it to every sista in your address book. Please Please Please do so.

I will publish the results and I think it’s important for us to get a true picture of ourselves. You can read all of the reasons why I started this survey here: (Read the Article)

The Survey Link is below I really appreciate all of your help.

Survey Link


Judge Rules Ban on cornrows is ‘indirect racial discrimination’

Many of you might have seen in the news recently, the story of the 12 year old boy who was excluded from his first day of school for wearing cornrows

He took the school to court and I was happy and surprised to hear that last week he won. Big clap for him and his parents.

Previously the school’s headmaster had said that their uniform policy “plays a critical role in ensuring that the culture associated with gangs of boys in particular – eg haircuts, bandanas, jewellery, hats, hoodies, etc – has no place in our school”.

However the high court ruled that St Gregory’s Catholic Science College in Harrow’s ban of the cornrows hairstyle was “unlawful, indirect racial discrimination”.

I accept that school uniform policies exist to maintain a smart appearance of pupils that does not distract from their studies. But the visual identity of different cultures can be very important and should also be considered when creating policies. It is not an easy thing to do with so many different cultures present in the UK, but failure to do so will lead to resentment and conflict with the cultures that don’t comply with uniform policies.

I have read several articles in which people stated that these styles are associated with gangs and that they wouldn’t allow their son to have them. My feeling is these hairstyles existed long before any gangs and by being ashamed to have them and by allowing them to be associated with gang culture we are criminalising parts of our own culture and history.

I believe that a large part of the problem is that these traditional styles are not seen widely on positive people, doing positive things. To date I have never ever seen a brother in rows in my office. Is it that we do not promote our own visual identity and we tend to conform? If lawyers and line managers had cornrows would a school ever contemplate excluding a child on such a hairstyle?

One of the reasons for starting The Natural Lounge is to encourage self acceptance any individual should be allowed to wear their own cultural hairstyles at any stage in their life. For us that’s rows, braids, locks and our own God given natural hair.


I think I will love the DR but will they love me?

This time next week I will be in the Dominican Republic. I can’t wait for sunshine and relaxation. It will be one day after Supernatural Day which I hope you can make, even though this is not strictly my event I think it’s going to be a fantastic day.

Anyway back to the DR, tonight I was browsing around to see what I could get up to whilst I was there and I decided to check out the natural hair scene. It doesn’t sound good. Apparently they don’t like natural hair 🙁 I am there to chill not to get people staring at my head! 

I came across a few articles about it but the one I thought was the most informative was written in 2007 by Frances Robles – (You might have seen it before its posted everywhere online). It discusses how Dominican Woman are basically trying to look less black so straightening their hair is very important 

It doesn’t sound good at all and I really hope things have moved on since. I will have to let you know how it all goes.

Have a read and let me know what you think about the article. Click below
Black Denial – Nearly all Dominican women straighten their hair, which experts say is a direct result of a historical learned rejection of all things black